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Click here to see a List of Swedenborg's Writings I would be delighted to know your reactions. Please email Leon James Related Articles: Doctrine of the Wife || Theistic Psychology || Swedenborgian Marriage Handbook for Husbands || Spiritual Geography--Part 2: Jacob's Ladder and Other Psycho-Dynamic Applications|| Spiritual Geography--Part 1-- Graphic Maps of Consciousness for Regeneration || Dual Citizenship || Spiritual Psychology || Spiritual Time and Space || De Hemelsche Leer Article || Theistic Science || Religious Psychology || Discrete Degrees: A Top Down Presentation (Ian Thompson) DOCTRINE OF THE WIFE Date: 1985-2004
V.1: The presence of the Divine in the Human for the sake of unition; V.2: The presence of the Human in the Divine, and thus a reciprocal unition; V.3: From this unition the Human was made Divine; V.4: And this successively and continuously while the Lord lived in the world; V.5: And this commenced when the rational was in a state to receive; V.6-7: The state of unition, its qualities; V.8-12: Separation of the maternal human
V.1: Chapter 1 Topic: Unition of the Lords Divine with his Human
V.9: AND SARAH SAW = The Lords insight into Divine Truth (AC 2651)
THE SON OF HAGAR THE EGYPTIAN= the merely human rational which was separated after the birth of the Divine rational (because its affections are contrary) (AC 2652) (=Ishmael) MOCKING= that which does not favor the self and hence is contrary to ones affections = a contrary affection (AC 2654) ISHMAEL MOCKING (Negative Bias in Science): "The human rational that namely which has its birth form worldly things through impressions of sense and afterwards from analogues of worldly things by means of knowledges is ready to laugh and mock if told that it does not live of itself, but only appears to live so; and that one lives the more, that is the wisely and intelligently, and the more blissfully and happily, the less he believes that the lives of himself." AC 2654: 3 This is the the origin of the negative bias viz., why the Writings are excluded by scientists: the latters empiricism leads to a first rational built up by analogy using natural cognitions based on sense impressions (natural reasoning or philosophy and, science and humanism) (=appearances of truths) REGENERATION = POSITIVE BIAS (AC 2657:2,3) In relation to AC 2654:3-7, see also: POSITIVE BIAS and RADICALIST REGISTER Examples of radicalist assertions:
V.10: "She said unto Abraham" = Perception from the Divine = Internal perception CAST OUT= Banish (the first rational) = REGENERATION: first rational (before regeneration) Second rational (after regeneration) (AC 2657:2)
The second rational is built up by the Lord through selective vivification (AC 2657:3) of those Ishmael trues which "are in agreement and which favor" hence we have this picture:
Note: the new Isaac rational has a heavenly Own (i.e. it is Divine) (the human own was removed by selective vivification)
(2658:2) The Lord made the Human in Himself from conception Life Itself, by separating the maternal human altogether (not just removing it to the circumference), and then united this to His Divine. So the Human also was Life Itself, right from conception. This is the meaning of John 5:26.
(AC 2658:3) To Love the Lords life = Life in Itself = To have the Fathers life. (The Divine Itself (infinite)) vs. To receive life from the Lord in the merely human organ we have from creation (Love and Faith). (Heirs and sons) The Divine that dwells with us (finited)
INHERIT: = Eternal life to all men = To have possession by inheritance (AC 2658:4) Possession= 1. "To possess by in inheritance" (celestial love) (good) (heirs) ([Yerisha]) "To inherit" (truth) (sons) ([Nachal]) (Spirit love) "The Lords Divine rational, or His Divine Human, represented by Isaac." (AC 2658:4) " The Lords Divine Human is the role heir- possessor; as He declares in several places that all things of the Father are His."[(Jehovah Yerisha Jeshu)] (AC 2658: 4) [See also Comments to John 5] "He that putteth his trust in Me shall inherit the land, and shall possess by inheritance the mountain of My holiness." Isaiah 57:13
"Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth." (Matt 5:5)
V.11: "And the word was evil exceedingly in the eyes of Abraham, on account of his son." (Genesis 21:10) (AC 2659, 2661) (Greeting out of love for the merely human, first rational)
Note: The Lord gave Sarah and not Abraham, to perceive that Ishmael must be made second and Isaac first. This means that through Divine Doctrine there is perception of the Divine Human. It is through the wife that the husband perceives the Conjugial. Apart from the wife, the husband has no perception of celestial trues. The internal sense of the word is given by the Lord to the husband through his wife. God told Abraham to act according to Sarahs word. This means that the Lord united His Human to His Divine by acting according Divine Truth or the Human Divine, i.e. His Own power. In order for the human race to be saved Abraham had to hearken to Sarah, that is, celestial temptations are won by the husband acting in accordance with his wifes voice, which is the Doctrine of the Wife. "Voice" signifies the trues in her affections. Then her trues, which are inmost and inexpressible, are externalized in his trues, which are expressible. Then she too can express them. So the Doctrine of the Church is born from the Lord through the wife in the husband and becomes visible in the natural of the husbands expressions and writings. V.12: (AC 2665) "all that Sarah sayeth unto thee, hearken unto her voice." (Genesis 21:12) The Doctrine of the Wife is the title chosen for the internal sense of Genesis 21 as outlined in AC 2610-2726. This diagram summarizes some of he contents of these numbers in the Word of the Third Testament. The Doctrine of the Wife in defined by the first verse of the Chapter, i.e. it deals with the details of how the Lord united His Human to His Divine through the Divine spiritual, i.e. through Sarah. The Wife is thus the means through which the husband overcomes in celestial temptations and thereby receives the Conjugal in himself from within and which appears (is externalized) as wisdom, perception of Doctrine. "And Jehovah did unto Sarah" (V.1) signifies the state of unition of "the Lords Divine spiritual in His Divine celestial" which in "the marriage itself of good, from which comes the heavenly marriage" and from whose union is born the Divine Rational, that is, the Divine Human (AC 2618). The Divine Human is thus perceivable when the Conjugal enters the wife internally, into her sincere affections, which are seen by the husband and received by him externally; they constitute for him celestial temptations which he overcomes by hearkening to his wifes voice, i.e. shunning their violation as a sin against the Lords Divine Human. The Divine makes this process visible, and it is confirmed in Genesis 21, John 5, and AC 2610-2726 "As He had spoken" (V.1) (AC 2619): when "Jehovah said" VS. "Jehovah spoke" Perception from Divine celestial VS. Perception from the Divine spiritual "With man the case is this: it is good from which he perceives, but it is truth by means of which he thinks." (AC 2679) TRANSLATION: WITH THE CONJUGIAL COUPLE, IT IS THE HUSBAND FROM WHICH PERCEPTION ORIGINATES (FROM THE LORD) BUT IT IS THE WIFE BY MEANS OF WHICH THOUGHT IS GIVEN. Reasons
A son/rational = Isaac = Abraham Divine Itself (celestial) + Sarah unition = conceives (Divine Essence) + Human Divine (Spiritual) (Human Essence) DOCTRINE OF THE WIFE--Symbolism ABRAHAM + SARAH = ISAAC (GENESIS 21) FATHER AND SON = JESUS (JOHN 5) In the Word = GOOD AND TRUTH = Doctrine of Life (Swedenborg) Isaac= The Divine Human (Old Testament) Jesus= The God of Heaven and earth (New Testament) Doctrine of Life= Regeneration through temptations (Third Testament) Old Testament = natural temptations New Testament = spiritual temptations Third Testament = celestial temptations Celestial temptations are overcome when:
The wifes superiority (i.e. priority) lies in her deeper vision of the husbands celestial temptations. This deeper vision gives her infallible judgment over matters involving her husbands celestial temptations. The Doctrine of the Wife makes visible that the domain of the wifes superiority is in the husbands celestial temptations. As well, it makes visible that she is not in a superior position regarding matters involving spiritual and natural temptations. Unless it is known what kind of temptation one is in--celestial, spiritual, or natural one world not know when the wifes has infallible judgment. Every regenerating husband has areas of celestial temptations and these become increasingly visible as he overcomes natural and spiritual temptations apart from the wife. The content of celestial temptations in general deals with natural things from the rational, i.e., PSYCHO-POLITICS OF USES IN EVERYDAY LIFE. In this battle the first rational (Ishmael) is favored by the husbands natural inclinations and opposes ("mocks") the second rational (Isaac) conceived within the wifes affections and judgment (Sarah) and to be received by the husband (Abraham). When the husband overcomes as of self his inmost resistance to his wifes vision/perception of truth (judgment) [=Abraham hearkens unto Sarahs voice] then, and only then, can he form DOCTRINE (Jacob bowing to Esau as Lord). To a spiritual man there is great delight in the Doctrine of the Church he forms along with other men of the Church. His delight in Doctrine is greater than his delight in his wife. Adam was more delighted in his proprium (Eve) than in the Lords leading (celestial Adam). It is of the Lords Mercy to will that the spiritual man discover the presence of this Doctrine within his wife so that his wife may be as delightful as the Doctrine to him, yeah, more delightful. Thus he becomes celestial, for to the husband of the celestial Church, the wife is the greatest delight of all. At last, she becomes for him the sole genuine doorway to the Lord Himself. As he thus takes on more and more splendiferous aspects, she radiates more and more with an even deeper light of wisdom.
However a means of salvation was provided in advance by the Lord: regeneration through temptations. All men and women who want to compel their natural self to a life in obedience to their religion, gradually receive a new conscious rational perception of spiritual realities. Step 1) the wifes external mind, which is outer love, conjoins and appropriates the husbands external mind, which is wisdom. Step 2) the husbands internal mind, which is inner love, conjoins and appropriates the wifes internal mind, which is inner wisdom.
ADAM and EVE=MAN and WOMAN= HUSBAND and WIFE RIB= Mans own wisdom from natural truth. BUILT RIB INTO A WOMAN= When woman becomes wife, the husbands own wisdom from natural truth is "transcribed into" her, through which she senses his affections of the will which she "moderates" unbeknownst to him and "appropriates" to herself through loving it, and which then is in her as an "image" of his inmost. Stage 1: {MAN--BOY}= "receptacle" (masculine mind) (organ) for wisdom, from influx. {WOMAN--GIRL}= "receptacle" (organ) for love of that wisdom, from influx (feminine mind) Step 2: (HUSBAND & WIFE) = TWAIN SHALL BE ONE FLESH = Act, think, feel as one person = CONJUGIAL LOVE = Fruition of all inner potentials to eternity Stage 1: MAN--BOY: C3, S3, A2, C2, S2, A1, C1, S1 WOMAN--GIRL: A3, S3, A2, C2, S2, A1, C1, S1 Stage 2 MARRIAGE HUSBAND: A3, C3, S3, A2, C2, S2, A1, C1, S1 WIFE: A3, C3, S3, A2, C2, S2, A1, C1, S1 Fig. 1: The Psychobiology of Sex and Marriage Or DEVELOPMENTAL PSYCHOBIOLOGY *A III= Husband appropriates wifes love of husbands wisdom *CIII= Wife appropriates husbands wisdom *S III= Fruition of higher inner potentials MARRIAGE AS PSYCHIATRY--Healing of the soul and mind
= Not good for man to love his own wisdom hence himself. = He, as husband, can now love his wifes love of his wisdom as he appropriates her love of his wisdom though he cannot discern this since she hides it. Correspondences from Genesis MAN LEAVING FATHER AND MOTHER = Stop loving his own loves (father = will) and his won wisdom (mother = understanding), born evil inclination. CLEAVING TO HIS WIFE = Devotion to her = Loving her = Receiving her love of him (his affections and wisdom), which love she has from birth (influx). MARRIAGE = Spiritual reunion of man and womans interiors = Becoming one flesh or one person or one angel. The Lords Kingdom
Masculine and Feminine Receptacle: Wisdom=Masculine while Love=Feminine
Counterclockwise= HISTORICAL DECLINE OF AGES Clockwise= INDIVIDUAL PROCESS OF REGENERATION The Psychobiology of Regeneration Taxonomy of Love Religious Behavior
PSYCHOLINGUISTIC DEVELOPMENT & MATURITY
Religious Behaviorism--Script Analysis and The Rational: (From imagination to truth to goodnessthe epic history of every mans autobiography) a) The rational Determines, Experiential force, Valuates, confirms Significance cathexis (e.g. chooses which child experiences are elevated to importance vs. relegated to oblivion and inaction see Freud; and Tomkins on "scripting") b) Which is therefore to eternity (see "confirmed character" when inherited evil is turned into acquired evil) (see GENETIC CULTURE/LIFESTYLE/ETHNICITY) c) Through the use the person makes of it (see: TEN COMMANDMENTS/NEW WILL/REFORMATION) (e.g. first vs. second rational: truth vs. charity) - Confirming false hoods that serve cupidities (e.g. Ellis and Perls and EST vs. Mowrer and Jung and Swedenborg) - Disconfirming falsehoods through reception of revealed truths and resultant self-control of the inherited sensual will or inclinations. - Curbing ones evils (see TWO-EDGED SWORD =) - Assenting to ones cupidities and insanities closes or degenerates the rational so that person is deprived of the ability for judgment ( "sensual" a "corporeal" man) d) Misuse of the rational deprives the person of the ability to reason with abstract thoughts ("materialism", "humanism", "relativity", "nihilism", "psychopathic", "atheism") R*D= [correlate Abstract Reasoning scores with Moral Behaviors and/or Moral Intelligence and/or Lifestyle Index][see: Recidivism/Decline in scat Psychotherapy/Materialism] Diagram= [evil-people-cant-reason-hypothesis] e) Deceit and profanation being the two worst misuses that kill remains (e.g. fantasies taken for realities; 87) SELF-ANALYSIS TRAINING OR JACOBS LADDER (H. Odhner, p. 84) (Hagar Ishmael à Isaac= the evolution of the Rational see AC)(Jacobs Ladder on the bridge between Heaven and Earth in confirmations of good) = Love of truth rules over love of sensual EXPLORING ONES INTERIORS RATIONAL REFLECTION--ISHMAEL WITHIN US (prior to TRUTH joining to GOOD) FIRST RATIONAL (WILD-ASS) PRIOR TO SYMPATHY AND LOVE OF NEIGHBORS PRIOR TO ISAAC WHO IS PEACE WITHIN US SAT: Self-Analysis Training Correspondence {= Helping the first rational or Ishmael to transform into the second rational or Ishmael} Elevation and Full Maturity {= Conjoining truth to good = Adding sympathy to understanding and letting} Objectives and Symptoms in SAT {= Avoiding the abuses of the rational} The Development of Judgment (Odhner) (Education of the Will) A C S
A/C/S breadth = A priori = (Synthetic) = From ends to effects A/C/S breadth = Abstracting out time/space = 3-D to 2-D to 1-D (A posteriori) from first principles to effects Induction and Analysis (angelic wisdom a priori) I Clothed Appres. Ultimate (Y/G ground) Deduction and Synthesis II Level height I Covered up truths (Y/G ground) III Naked Truths first (Black/White origin) ultimate (this includes "preconceived principles" (dogmas) From Effects to Causes and First Principles confirmed in ultimate through biased (This includes scientific rational though selection of ultimate development)
EDUCATION OF THE WILL (DIRECTION OF DEPTH) *= Removal (or "separation" of quantity (math, time, space, person, quality **= "D"= Dimensions of constraint or limitations.
The Rational Mind: Composition and Processes (H. Odhner) (A/C/S-collapsed)
The Basic Ennead of the MIND Philosophical Psychological, and Religious Foundations SPIRITUAL IDEAS (good) REVEALED TRUTHS (tree) INTUITIVE PERCEPTIVE MEMORY OF ABSOLUTIONS (truths) TRUE FALSE FREE UNFREE LOVE HATE (Correspondence) LEVEL III RATIONAL MIND (MIXED SPIRITUAL/CELESTIAL) NON-MATERIAL IDEAS CONSCIENCE/JUSTICE EQUITY/REASONING SELECTION IN LAWFULNESS MEMORY OF THINGS THOUGHT FAIR UNFAIR PROPER IMPROPER APPROPRIATE INAPPROPRIATE (Thought Relations) LEVEL II MORAL MIND (MIXED RATIONAL/NATURAL) KNOWLEDGE SCIENCE INFORMATION MEMORY OF THINGS SENSED SELECTION IN NECESSITY IMAGERY CORRECT INCORRECT COMPLETE INCOMPLETE SAME DIFFERENT (Sense Attributes) (Time and Space) LEVEL I NATURAL MIND (SENSORY ORIGIN ONLY) (A & B = spiritual substance) The Organization and Operations of the Mind The Ennead of Religious Behaviorism (see H. Odhner)
The Interiors of the Rational Mind (H. Odhner) (A/B/C collapsed) BLACK Pure intelligence (perception of spiritual truths) Spiritual Origin: Process only Sensitive to inner relational patterns in interior of (content in natural) natural but now sensed by the natural itself Higher conscience/innate/connate/ideas/love/ Wisdom/remains/pure intellect*/innate intuitions of truths/absolutes/universals/rational templates or concordant harmonies that correspond with axiomatic or prime natural verities and laws (un- conscious archetype) (transpersonal) (intentional- structures)(collective mind) BROWN Natural Origin Thinking/reasoning/transforming/creating/ (content process) imagination/imagery/exterior memory/sensation/ B perception/impression GREEN YELLOW *Pure intellect considers all thing by an absolute true/false judgment that is intuitively apperceived , thus sees simultaneously (outside time/space) what the natural mind sees and experiences successively (in time/space). (no successive steps of building up, as in analysis or derivation or generalization, or abstracted instead it is synthetic and synecdochic and teleological) Pure intellectual things ("wisdom") can be expressed indirectly by analogy as parable. The organic substance of the pure intellect is the highest (thinnest) if natural substances (their essence or inmost) and is located in the inmost of the cortical gland "cortex" matter. Within this highest natural, and giving it life and function, is spiritual substance which is of a higher degree and unconnected except by corresponding harmony. Hence this is a plane of interaction between spiritual and natural in the human mind/body system. Complexity of Psycholinguistic Functioning Level of Psycholinguistic Functioning A C S
Development of Psycholinguistics MORNING SPRING TIME LOVE TO THE LORD WHITE BLACK CELESTIAL MIND PHASE: SABBATH REST (NEW: WILL AND WISDOM) Low midnight Hi noon summer LOVE OF WORLD/SELF LOVE OF TRUTH Unregenerate people; Imaginative Selfhood Phase: Regeneration; Interior Morality (world ills and problems) Fig. 1 (spirituality) C C C YELLOW GREEN BLUE BROWN S S S NATURAL MIND SPIRITUAL MIND Phase: Reformation; External Morality Religious and Cults (faith separate) Christian Psychotherapy: The Psychobiology of Rebirth (Psychotopical phases graphically indexed) Swedenborg, in Heaven and Hell (17), describes the pr4ocess of Christian rebirth as "turning". People are born facing North, spiritually (see: "inherited evil" of selfishness in natural mind). Phase Alpha, or "reformation", is completed when the person is turned "W" i.e. "shuns evils" as barbarian (see: MORALITY). Phase Beta, is completed when the person faces "S", i.e. "shuns evils as sins". (see: spirituality). Phase gamma is completed after death in other world. Innate Spiritual Strivings à {Gestalt Organizational} Preferences and Inclination Perception of Higher Conscience à Love and Compassion and Collective Conjoining Impulse Impulses from Pure Rational Innate Universals à Intuition and Striving for Rationality and Love of Innate Universal Order Socio-Moral Impulse Self-Love and Hate of Universal Innate Order Perception of Consonance and Dissonance Reasoning Aptitude and Tendencies Pressure for Consonance Socio-Moral Influx: Its Quality and Function The accompanying graphic representation summarizes the description of the threefold self as given in Swedenborgs writings. After studying it for a few minutes, and committing it to memory (to some extent), you may consider the following points regarding the concept of "influx". The universal influx of lifes operation is Gods own will, intellect, and power with which all lifes motion and states are created, maintained, and altered in accordance with His ineffable purposes. Gods purposes, to some extent have been revealed to the human race on our natural earth through religious revelations to individuals who then told others and thus established religious and is educated by others. Afterwards, the adhere to family religion or rejects it and espouses other views and rules of living. A Graphic Representation of the Threefold Self III. In Heavenly or à Heavenly or à Organic Functions Infernal World Infernal body and Societies inmost influx (celestial) (infernal) (influx) II In Spiritual à Spiritual body à Organic Functions World or Societies intermediate influx (spiritual) (influx) I Natural World à Natural body à Organic Functions and Societies There is thus individual freedom along with influx. However the area of freedom is different in each of the three worlds. In the natural world, the area of freedom is in the organic functions of the natural self (memory-knowledges from sensory input and material reasoning with them). There is no other freedom in the natural world, though we have the hallucinate that the thoughts and abstract reasoning were aware of are our very own. We would indeed be surprised to learn (and might incline to disbelieve) that we are indeed conscious of some abstract thoughts but these are not thought by the "me" we know! Instead, these abstract thoughts that our consciousness is aware of enters by influx into our imagination. In other words, others in the spirit world are thinking those thoughts, which them enter into our imagination where we can perceive their natural analogy or "image". The Three Freedoms of the Threefold Self The accompanying graphic diagram shows the three areas of freedom. The natural selfs freedom is in the area of material reasoning, as we know our self in our daily living activities and settings. Thus we can move our bodies in freedom in accordance with whatever image or memory we feel like satisfying or pursuing. These are the external or c-level freedom. We are at liberty to think and choose whatever material ideas or pursuits we can memorize or construct. We are also aware of non-material ideas or rational ideas as when we see the difference between a contradiction and a paradox, or when we build graphic models of the threefold self, or when we intuitively decide on right/wrong or good/evil. These rational ideas have natural analogs by which we are aware of them, but they themselves are not in the natural world but in the spiritual world. The natural self can thus become aware of rational ideas and thus understand truths and good and evil, but has no control over these as they exist in the spiritual and celestial worlds only. Hence the sphere of freedom to the natural self is restricted to thinking material thoughts, which are local and external images of rational thoughts. The sphere of freedom of the spiritual self is in thinking and reasoning with rational ideas, and the sphere of freedom of the heavenly or infernal self is in choosing the affections and loves implanted within their innate strivings. There is thus a natural freedom in our material thoughts and reasoning by which we can build the morality of our character. For example, as spiritual ideas of truths or falsehood stream into the brain from the spiritual selfs environment, their analog in material imagination makes their presence conscious to us in the natural world. Thus, we in the natural world become conscious of our spiritual self though we cant control that selfs activities in the spirit world. This awareness gives us the means to build our character since we can choose in freedom to alter the direction of our spiritual self. Negative Bias Paradigm
*Ishmael is external or scientific knowledge, which battles with all in constant engagements between "truth vs. falsehood" (Paradigm switches and revolutions) **Isaac is interior rationality or intellect, which is yielding in constant striving to confirm, conjoin, and organically unify. Positive Bias Paradigm: How to Confirm A/C/S The Psychology of Gender 8/86 Female man * Male man Wife * Husband 1 couple unit Psychology Key: Woman = motivated or affective (will) (love) Man = cognitive (understanding) (wisdom) N.B. Affections rule Cognitions form within *A wife is to be ruled by her husband because cognitions separated (emptied) rule the natural (external). A husband is to obey his wife because cognitions refilled (conjoined) achieve the couple state (for superior). Relationships Gender Differences Why a man doesn't want to commit himself to a relationship? Control, Cowardice or (Fake Independence) wants to retain control over woman avoiding changing his character which a woman pressures him to do once the man the commits. Selfishness and lack of caring, Self-Destructive doesn't want to give up selfish activities and habits (investing) wants to destroy himself by first destroying the woman and his relationship. doesn't want to give up other woman or men friends. Doesnt want to share his money. Why a woman wants and strives for a relationship with commitment? Conjunction (unity) wants to evolve into a joint human (couple hood is completion of self) Unselfish or Altruistic desires to change herself so as to fit perfectly with her man. Caring and Nurturing cares about him so wants to be close and intimate so as to know how to take care of his needs. Belonging needs overt signs of belonging for reassurance and safety. Romance wants to feel special and exclusive. Jealousy: reaction to threat
Different reasons for males and females: ("Im unworthy to be loved") ("Im inferior in compassion") ("Im not capable in compassion") ("Im replaceable") c) Control, desire for (I own you; you belong to me; no one can have you; youre just my property) Jealousy: Zeal to Protect
Communication (Talk) DISCLAIMER [Does not pertain to extreme cases, e.g. fatal attraction, abuse, mental, illness or deliberately calculating types] Marriage is external He/She is the one Accommodating him/her (people are unique, unique relationships, culture and self) Finding out what he/she cares about moment by moment Solving his/her problems Saving him/her form problems, not giving him/her problems Obey him/her Make it safe to tell the truth, no repercussions Make up for transgressions remedy Tell the truth, no deception, ever Respond carefully to distress symptoms
Be attentive all the time, no time out, especially when fighting/arguing It may feel strange to respond the way he/she needs to be responded to it evolves into your own way face his/her reality without denial Avoid whose right/wrong style of conversation Develop exploratory style of talk to go deeper without hurting, defending, accusing Why men must give in to their women: Its a mans world Men automatically assume a position of superiority Men take their rights automatically Men developed the social, economic and judicial systems Men are by definition biased toward male views Its the little things that show the male predominance Men need womens sweetness but dont allow themselves to have it by distancing form the women Men cannot have love without obeying their women as they expect their women to obey them Men cannot be happy and evolve without love Children do not provide the kind of love men need to be happy and fulfilled Men need love to fell adequate, to be healed of injuries, to become their true selves
Click here to see a List of Swedenborg's Writings I would be delighted to know your reactions. Please email Leon James Related Articles: Doctrine of the Wife || Theistic Psychology || Spiritual Geography--Part 2: Jacob's Ladder and Other Psycho-Dynamic Applications|| Spiritual Geography--Part 1-- Graphic Maps of Consciousness for Regeneration || Dual Citizenship || Spiritual Psychology || Spiritual Time and Space || De Hemelsche Leer Article || Theistic Science || Religious Psychology || Discrete Degrees: A Top Down Presentation (Ian Thompson) Back to Glossary of Swedenborg Related Concepts |
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