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DOCTRINE OF THE WIFE

Date: 1985-2004
by Leon James

Part 3--Definitions From Sacred Scriptures

Part 1 ||  Part 2  ||  Part 3

CONTENTS

Doctrinal Propositions
Correspondences in the Word Relating to the Doctrine of the Wife
THE DOCTRINE OF THE WIFE CHART
On the meaning of UNITION, CONJUNCTION, MARRIAGE, RELIGION: Concepts necessary to explain the Doctrine of the Wife
Spiritual Physiology of Marriage

 

Doctrinal Propositions

  1. That in celestial man and woman the Divine Truth is received in the form of the celestial Divine, which form is received in our within which is our affection for the genuine good and true.
  2. That the aim of all our efforts in the celestial state is solely to bring to our conscious awareness the arcana laid down in our idea of the Divine Human.
  3. That our idea of the Divine Human in born in the Divine Good of our remains, which idea contains infinite arcana to be laid out by the Lord gradually in our conscious awareness; this idea is represented by the expression "The Writings of Swedenborg as the Third Testament."
  4. That our idea of the Divine Human is being laid out as Spiritual and Celestial Doctrines which bear names such as "The Doctrine of Faith", "The Doctrine of Life", "The Doctrine of De Hemelsche Leer", "The Doctrine of the Wife", and so on; these Doctrines are represented by the expression "The Third Testament."
  5. That the First Five chapters of the Arcana Coelestia signify the celestial degree of the Doctrine of the Wife; that the Fifth Chapter of the Gospel of John signifies the spiritual degree of the Doctrine of the Wife; and that the Twenty-first Chapter of Genesis signifies the natural degree of the Doctrine of the Wife.
  6. That the Four Gospels, in their order, signifies the orderly steps we undergo in our understanding and perception of the Doctrine of the Wife.
  7. That the study explication, and teaching of "The Third Testament", are required daily activities and the scientifics or products thus accumulated constitute useful documents for the development of the Doctrine of the Church and Theistic Science.

"And Jehovah visited Sarah, as He had said; and Jehovah did unto Sarah as He had spoken…. And Sarah saw the son of Hagar the Egyptian, whom she had borne unto Abraham, mocking. And she said unto Abraham, Cast out this handmaid and her son; for the son of this handmaid shall not inherit with my son with Isaac. And the word was evil exceedingly in the eyes of Abraham, on account of his son. And God said unto Abraham, let it not be evil in thine eyes because of the boy, and because of thine handmaid; all that Sarah with unto thee, hearken unto her voice, for in Isaac shall thy seed be called."
Genesis 21:1, 9 – 12
See also: 
Arcana Coelestia 2615 – 2667 and De Hemelsche Leer 5:32 – 33

Correspondences in the Word Relating to the Doctrine of the Wife

Divine Spiritual–Natural

Divine Rational

Divine Celestial

APPARENT GOOD

Hagar = affection of rational things   (also: Handmaiden)

THE GOOD OF TRUTH

Divine Human (=Divine Rational as to good)

Isaac = celestial rational = affections of spiritual truth and good (also: Heirs) (see also: Laughter)

LOVE AND MERCY

Abraham = the Supreme Divine = Jehovah = Divine Celestial = Divine Good"

APPARENT TRUTH

THE SPIRITUAL CHURCH

Ishmael (the first rational merely human)

See also:  Sons

My son

Spiritual truths and goods in bundles (through selective vivification)

REASONINGS (knowledges of spiritual things)

Sarah

Divine Truth = Divine Spiritual = Human Divine = His Own Power"

Egypt

= memory-knowledges of the Word

CONCEPTS, COGNITIONS, SENSE IMPRESSIONS

AC 2654 The "first rational" is "born by means of knowledge’s", so that it is only "in appearances of truth" which "are not truths in themselves" and cannot agree with the later arrival of "truths without appearances" or "Divine truths" because it "does not comprehend them" and because it "opposes them". (AC 2654:2) AC 2657:3 After the apparent trues of the rational have been collected from scientifics, the Lord implants, through affections of spiritual truth and good, pure trues and goods in bundles by a process of selective vivification of those appearances of trues which are in agreement and which favor, while removing to the circumference that does not agree.
  • The very marriage itself of good and truth, the Lord’s Kingdom from which is Conjugal Love. (AC 2618)
  • Birth of Isaac: When the Lord’s rational was made Divine (AC 2637)
  • Weaning of Isaac: when the merely human rational was separated. (AC 2649)

Order (AC 2649:1):

V.1: The presence of the Divine in the Human for the sake of unition;

V.2: The presence of the Human in the Divine, and thus a reciprocal unition;

V.3: From this unition the Human was made Divine;

V.4: And this successively and continuously while the Lord lived in the world;

V.5: And this commenced when the rational was in a state to receive;

V.6-7: The state of unition, its qualities;

V.8-12: Separation of the maternal human

Notes on Verses

V.1: Chapter 1 Topic: Unition of the Lords Divine with his Human

"What further arcane are enfolded in these words that "Jehovah visited Sarah as He had said," and that "Jehovah did unto Sarah as He had spoken," cannot be declared, because thy are inexpressible; for thy comprise the very state itself of the unition of the Lord’s Divine with His Human."

See also: Commentary on John 5 for examination of same topic (interior rational)

V.9: AND SARAH SAW = The Lord’s insight into Divine Truth (AC 2651)

The wife’s sincere affections are the Lord’s insight.

THE SON OF HAGAR THE EGYPTIAN= the merely human rational which was separated after the birth of the Divine rational (because its affections are contrary) (AC 2652) (=Ishmael)

MOCKING= that which does not favor the self and hence is contrary to one’s affections = a contrary affection (AC 2654)

ISHMAEL MOCKING (Negative Bias in Science): "The human rational that namely which has its birth form worldly things through impressions of sense and afterwards from analogues of worldly things by means of knowledge’s is ready to laugh and mock if told that it does not live of itself, but only appears to live so; and that one lives the more, that is the wisely and intelligently, and the more blissfully and happily, the less he believes that the lives of himself." AC 2654: 3

This is the the origin of the negative bias viz., why the Writings are excluded by scientists: the latter’s empiricism leads to a first rational built up by analogy using natural cognitions based on sense impressions (natural reasoning or philosophy and, science and humanism) (=appearances of truths)

REGENERATION = POSITIVE BIAS (AC 2657:2,3)

In relation to AC 2654:3-7, see also:  POSITIVE BIAS and RADICALIST REGISTER

Examples of radicalist assertions:

- We do not live of ourselves but only appear so

- We live best the more we accept this

- We have nothing of our own

- The less we think we have our own the more we have

- Whatever we do from our own is evil

- We are organs of life only (merely human)

- We are not were until we think that all good is from God and perceive that all evil in from hell

- All our wisdom is from angels who are within our true beliefs and right perceptions

- Wisdom is to believe one self to be the least wise

- Greatness is to desire to be least

- Happiness is to desire others to be most happy and oneself the least so

- Heaven is to with to be below all

- Hell is to wish to be above all

- Real truths ("glory of heaven") are pure opposites to appearances of truths ("glory of the world") (2654:5)

- The afterlife if life without space and time but with states which create appearance, of space and time

- Life is the more heavenly when eternal (i.e. apart from space and time)

- The eternal is apart from space and time and cannot be comprehended with concepts based by analogy on space and time

- Life in space/time/matter is less real and blissful than apart from it

V.10: "She said unto Abraham"

= Perception from the Divine = Internal perception

CAST OUT= Banish (the first rational) = REGENERATION: first rational (before regeneration)

Second rational (after regeneration) (AC 2657:2)

"The first, which is before regeneration, is procured through the experiences of the sense, by reflections upon things of civic life and of moral life, and by means of the sciences and the reasoning’s derived from them and by means of them, also by means of the knowledge’s of spiritual things from the doctrine of faith or from the Word. But these go no further at that time than a little above the ideas of the corporal memory, which comparatively one quite material (AC 2657:2)

(this is called thinking "by comparison, or analogically")

The second rational is built up by the Lord through selective vivification (AC 2657:3) of those Ishmael trues which "are in agreement and which favor" hence we have this picture:

AC 2657:5  "But as example aid conviction, take as an example that which is man’s own before regeneration, and that which is his own after it… This first rational cannot apprehend otherwise [thinking truths are his own], even if has been instructed that all the good of love and all the truth of faith are from the Lord. But when man is being regenerated … in adult age, then from the other rational … he begins to think that the good and truth are not from himself … The more he is then confirmed in this, the more is he led into the light of truth … till at last he believes that all good and all truth are from the Lord … and the man is gifted by the Lord with a heavenly Own, which becomes that of his new rational."

Note: the new Isaac rational has a heavenly Own (i.e. it is Divine) (the human own was removed by selective vivification)

 

Swedenborg - Kelman Model of Regeneration (AC 2657:6)

COMPLIANCE: The first rational does not comprehend heavenly love but does good from a delight of merit, status, or reword
IDENTIFICATION: The second rational begins to feel some delight in good and truth itself and to be affected by this for the sake of itself and rejects merit as an enormity.
INTERNALIZATION: This delight grows with him step by step and becomes blessed and heavenly

 

ISHMAEL SHALL NOT INHERIT WITH ISAAC

The merely human is but an organ of life and cannot have life in itself, which is the Lord’s.

 

(2658:2) The Lord made the Human in Himself from conception Life Itself, by separating the maternal human altogether (not just removing it to the circumference), and then united this to His Divine. So the Human also was Life Itself, right from conception. This is the meaning of John 5:26.

 

(AC 2658:3) To Love the Lord’s life = Life in Itself = To have the Father’s life. (The Divine Itself (infinite))

vs.

To receive life from the Lord in the merely human organ we have from creation (Love and Faith). (Heirs and sons) The Divine that dwells with us (finited)

 

INHERIT: = Eternal life to all men = To have possession by inheritance (AC 2658:4)

Possession= 1. "To possess by in inheritance" (celestial love) (good) (heirs) ([Yerisha])

"To inherit" (truth) (sons) ([Nachal]) (Spirit love)

"The Lord’s Divine rational, or His Divine Human, represented by Isaac." (AC 2658:4)

"…The Lord’s Divine Human is the role heir- possessor; as He declares in several places that all things of the Father are His."[(Jehovah Yerisha Jeshu)] (AC 2658: 4)

[See also Comments to John 5]

"He that putteth his trust in Me shall inherit the land, and shall possess by inheritance the mountain of My holiness." Isaiah 57:13

The mountain of My holiness: Heaven, eternal life, conjunction with Divine Human.
 

Those who trust Me:

"Those who are in love to the Lord and faith in Human" (2658:7)

"Those who are in the Lord"

The Land: land of Canaan = Heaven

"Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth." (Matt 5:5)

The husband’s resistance:

ON ACCOUNT OF HIS SON

V.11: "And the word was evil exceedingly in the eyes of Abraham, on account of his son." (Genesis 21:10) (AC 2659, 2661) (Greeting out of love for the merely human, first rational)

Evil in the eyes = "A state of grief form love" (2661)

On account of his son

= "That he loved… the first rational" (2661)

Note: The Lord gave Sarah and not Abraham, to perceive that Ishmael must be made second and Isaac first. This means that through Divine Doctrine there is perception of the Divine Human. It is through the wife that the husband perceives the Conjugial. Apart from the wife, the husband has no perception of celestial trues. The internal sense of the word is given by the Lord to the husband through his wife. God told Abraham to act according to Sarah’s word. This means that the Lord united His Human to His Divine by acting according Divine Truth or the Human Divine, i.e. His Own power. In order for the human race to be saved Abraham had to hearken to Sarah, that is, celestial temptations are won by the husband acting in accordance with his wife’s voice, which is the Doctrine of the Wife. "Voice" signifies the trues in her affections.

Then her trues, which are inmost and inexpressible, are externalized in his trues, which are expressible. Then she too can express them. So the Doctrine of the Church is born from the Lord through the wife in the husband and becomes visible in the natural of the husband’s expressions and writings.

V.12: (AC 2665) "all that Sarah sayeth unto thee, hearken unto her voice." (Genesis 21:12)

The Doctrine of the Wife is the title chosen for the internal sense of Genesis 21 as outlined in AC 2610-2726.

This diagram summarizes some of he contents of these numbers in the Word of the Third Testament.

The Doctrine of the Wife in defined by the first verse of the Chapter, i.e. it deals with the details of how the Lord united His Human to His Divine through the Divine spiritual, i.e. through Sarah. The Wife is thus the means through which the husband overcomes in celestial temptations and thereby receives the Conjugal in himself from within and which appears (is externalized) as wisdom, perception of Doctrine.

"And Jehovah did unto Sarah" (V.1) signifies the state of unition of "the Lord’s Divine spiritual in His Divine celestial" which in "the marriage itself of good, from which comes the heavenly marriage" and from whose union is born the Divine Rational, that is, the Divine Human (AC 2618). The Divine Human is thus perceivable when the Conjugal enters the wife internally, into her sincere affections, which are seen by the husband and received by him externally; they constitute for him celestial temptations which he overcomes by hearkening to his wife’s voice, i.e. shunning their violation as a sin against the Lord’s Divine Human. The Divine makes this process visible, and it is confirmed in Genesis 21, John 5, and AC 2610-2726

"As He had spoken" (V.1) (AC 2619): when "Jehovah said" VS. "Jehovah spoke"

Perception from Divine celestial VS. Perception from the Divine spiritual

"With man the case is this: it is good from which he perceives, but it is truth by means of which he thinks." (AC 2679)

TRANSLATION:  WITH THE CONJUGIAL COUPLE, IT IS THE HUSBAND FROM WHICH PERCEPTION ORIGINATES (FROM THE LORD) BUT IT IS THE WIFE BY MEANS OF WHICH THOUGHT IS GIVEN.

Reasons

  1. Truth= Sarah; good= Abraham
  2. Good= perception; truth= thought
  3. Wife= source of affection to make truth of life (conjugial)
  4. Doctrine= Divine Truth= Church= Sarah= affection to make truth of life= wife
  5. Affection= perception, hence wife perceives through truth while husband does not perceive apart from truth.

"… The Divine rational was and came forth from the unition of the Divine spiritual with the Divine celestial of the Lord, when the days were fulfilled for the human to be put off, and when the rational was such as to receive (all of which is signified in the internal sense by Sarah’s conceiving and leasing to Abraham a son to his old age at the appointed time)…" (AC 2625:4)

"Some idea of this [process of putting off the human] may be formed from what takes place in those who are being regenerated… when by means of them [love and faith implanted successively] the man’s rational has become such that it can receive, then for the most part by means of temptations in which he conquers." (AC 2625:5)

A son/rational = Isaac = Abraham Divine Itself (celestial)

+ Sarah unition = conceives (Divine Essence)

+ Human Divine (Spiritual) (Human Essence)

DOCTRINE OF THE WIFE--Symbolism

ABRAHAM + SARAH = ISAAC (GENESIS 21)

FATHER AND SON = JESUS (JOHN 5)

In the Word = GOOD AND TRUTH = Doctrine of Life (Swedenborg)

Isaac= The Divine Human (Old Testament)

Jesus= The God of Heaven and earth (New Testament)

Doctrine of Life= Regeneration through temptations (Third Testament)

Old Testament = natural temptations

New Testament = spiritual temptations

Third Testament = celestial temptations

Celestial temptations are overcome when:

    1. The husband receives the wife’s trues in his affections by obedience and harmonizing in his will
    2. In understanding, by transforming her trues in the affections into his trues from his affections.
  1. conjugial enters wife’s affections from which she has PERCEPTION (INTUITION within)
  2. Wife’s affections are internalized as inexpressible wisdom (Divine Truth), (Human Divine)
  3. Husband’s affections (celestial temptations) receive wife’s inexpressible wisdom (Divine Truth), (Human Divine)
  4. Doctrine is born in his thoughts as a result of (3) (Divine Human). This is Isaac, the Divine Rational the Divine Human, the Divine Doctrine of the Church with us, with our new will and understanding therefrom.

THE DOCTRINE OF THE WIFE CHART

The wife’s superiority (i.e. priority) lies in her deeper vision of the husband’s celestial temptations. This deeper vision gives her infallible judgment over matters involving her husband’s celestial temptations. The Doctrine of the Wife makes visible that the domain of the wife’s superiority is in the husband’s celestial temptations. As well, it makes visible that she is not in a superior position regarding matters involving spiritual and natural temptations.

Unless it is known what kind of temptation one is in--celestial, spiritual, or natural – one world not know when the wife’s has infallible judgment. Every regenerating husband has areas of celestial temptations and these become increasingly visible as he overcomes natural and spiritual temptations apart from the wife.

The content of celestial temptations in general deals with natural things from the rational, i.e., PSYCHO-POLITICS OF USES IN EVERYDAY LIFE. In this battle the first rational (Ishmael) is favored by the husband’s natural inclinations and opposes ("mocks") the second rational (Isaac) conceived within the wife’s affections and judgment (Sarah) and to be received by the husband (Abraham). When the husband overcomes as of self his inmost resistance to his wife’s vision/perception of truth (judgment) [=Abraham hearkens unto Sarah’s voice] then, and only then, can he form DOCTRINE (Jacob bowing to Esau as Lord).

To a spiritual man there is great delight in the Doctrine of the Church he forms along with other men of the Church. His delight in Doctrine is greater than his delight in his wife. Adam was more delighted in his proprium (Eve) than in the Lord’s leading (celestial Adam). It is of the Lord’s Mercy to will that the spiritual man discover the presence of this Doctrine within his wife so that his wife may be as delightful as the Doctrine to him, yeah, more delightful. Thus he becomes celestial, for to the husband of the celestial Church, the wife is the greatest delight of all. At last, she becomes for him the sole genuine doorway to the Lord Himself. As he thus takes on more and more splendiferous aspects, she radiates more and more with an even deeper light of wisdom.

On the meaning of UNITION--CONJUNCTION--MARRIAGE--RELIGION--Concepts necessary to explain the Doctrine of the Wife

  1. Eve is our won proprium, our natural self or self-conscious existence, the essential of which is the feeling of as-of self, i.e. "it is I who thinks, it is I who feels, it is I who decides, it is I who wishes, etc." Prior to the state of Eve, human beings lived in an earthly paradise, directly led by angels and spirits, of whom they were consciously aware. However, at one stage people began to experience the desire to be led by their own self so as to be able to plan their future and explore in unknown areas, and less by inner instinct. The making of Eve is that delight we have when this desire for independence is satisfied by the Lord. A certain spiritual darkness is necessary for this; human beings would no longer possess infallible judgment by instinct – as animals do also.
    But a new danger is now present: the Snake.
  2. The darkening of the spiritual world to human beings on earth (called the Fall), brought on both natural freedom and spiritual slavery. This was not a necessary outcome. The spiritual decline occurred only when people began to doubt the Word of God as preserved is Sacred Scriptures given to every culture, society, and tribe in the form of religious traditions or church. With the decline of the church came false beliefs, which led to a lack of wisdom in practical life. Social life then became "a problem" and required historical characteristics such as wars, famine, sickness, competition, injustice, deceit, conflict, discord, unhappiness, and hate.
  3. However a means of salvation was provided in advance by the Lord: regeneration through temptations. All men and women who want to compel their natural self to a life in obedience to their religion, gradually receive a new conscious rational perception of spiritual realities.

  4. Regeneration is effected through temptations. As temptations are overcome in spiritual battles of conscience vs. desire, we begin to construct a new conscious self, one composed of rational elements only. Rational elements are within and above natural elements (by Creation). Rational ideas are abstracted from space-time concepts; or, space-time concepts are external elements within which there is a controlling agency called the spiritual. Our innate rational cognitions are capable of conjoining to the spiritual elements so that we can feel them as part of our self from within. This felling from within constitutes a new experience, a new inner sense, a new birth, a regeneration of an old sense that human beings possessed prior to the Fall. The formation of this new rational self which can sense eternal trues as a self-conscious ability is called the formation of the Church within us.
    For further explanations on the sensuous vs. rational consciousness, see this article.

    Spiritual Physiology of Marriage

    Step 1) the wife’s external mind, which is outer love, conjoins and appropriates the husband’s external mind, which is wisdom.

    Step 2) the husband’s internal mind, which is inner love, conjoins and appropriates the wife’s internal mind, which is inner wisdom.

External Mind = Memories of people, places, events, things, honors, reputation, books.
Internal Mind = Memories of loves, likes, affections, preferences, needs, wants.

 

  CONJUGIAL LOVE External Internal

Love

Desire to conjoin, share, and be first to each other. to raise a family and make each other happy to be one angel in heaven

Wisdom

Seeing what is true vs. fiction in society, work place, art, science, religion in relationships and character

ADAM and EVE=MAN and WOMAN= HUSBAND and WIFE

RIB= Man’s own wisdom from natural truth.

BUILT RIB INTO A WOMAN= When woman becomes wife, the husband’s own wisdom from natural truth is "transcribed into" her, through which she senses his affections of the will which she "moderates" unbeknownst to him and "appropriates" to herself through loving it, and which then is in her as an "image" of his inmost.


Stage 1: {MAN--BOY}= "receptacle" (masculine mind) (organ) for wisdom, from influx.

{WOMAN--GIRL}= "receptacle" (organ) for love of that wisdom, from influx (feminine mind)


Step 2: (HUSBAND & WIFE) = TWAIN SHALL BE ONE FLESH

= Act, think, feel as one person = CONJUGIAL LOVE = Fruition of all inner potentials to eternity

Stage 1:  MAN--BOY: C3, S3, A2, C2, S2, A1, C1, S1

WOMAN--GIRL:  A3, S3, A2, C2, S2, A1, C1, S1

Stage 2 MARRIAGE

HUSBAND:  A3, C3, S3, A2, C2, S2, A1, C1, S1

WIFE:   A3, C3, S3, A2, C2, S2, A1, C1, S1

Fig. 1: The Psychobiology of Sex and Marriage Or DEVELOPMENTAL PSYCHOBIOLOGY


*A III= Husband appropriates wife’s love of husband’s wisdom

*CIII= Wife appropriates husband’s wisdom

*S III= Fruition of higher inner potentials

MARRIAGE AS PSYCHIATRY--Healing of the soul and mind

  1. NOT GOOD FOR MAN TO BE ALONE
  2. = Not good for man to love his own wisdom hence himself.

  3. THEREFORE WIFE FROM HIS RIB WHILE HE’S ASLEEP
  4. = He, as husband, can now love his wife’s love of his wisdom as he appropriates her love of his wisdom though he cannot discern this since she hides it.

  5. Instead he thinks he woos her and that his love in her while in fact her love is in him and she manages to have him believe she is obedient and receptive when yet she is active and volitional.
  6. From this exchange of appropriation the two become one and come into all the potentials not otherwise available ("conjugal love" and its "heavenly felicity").

Correspondences from Genesis

MAN LEAVING FATHER AND MOTHER

= Stop loving his own loves (father = will) and his won wisdom (mother = understanding), born evil inclination.


CLEAVING TO HIS WIFE

= Devotion to her = Loving her = Receiving her love of him (his affections and wisdom), which love she has from birth (influx).


MARRIAGE

= Spiritual reunion of man and woman’s interiors = Becoming one flesh or one person or one angel.


The Lord’s Kingdom

 

LOVE

FIRST ENDS

WISDOM

CAUSES

USES

ULTIMATES

 

DIVINE CELESTIAL

GOOD VS.  EVIL

face, gold, flame, fire, bread, fat, beasts, lambs

GOOD OF LOVE

red, purple, black, lamp stand

TRUTH FROM GOOD OF LOVE

head, white, wool

DIVINE GOOD IN ULTIMATES

HIGHEST
or
INMOST

DIVINE SPIRITUAL

TRUTH VS. FALSITY

sheet, fish, birds, silver

 

GOOD OF TRUTH

water, wine, scarlet, brown, eyes

 

TRUTH OF FAITH

snow, linen, hair, beard, raiment, garment, breast

DIVINE TRUTH IN ULTIMATES

MIDDLE INTERNAL

NATURAL DEGREES OF THE DIVINE

fig, oil, serpent, burnished brass, copper, sides

 

NATURAL GOOD

blue, green, yellow, tree, iron, legs, vessels

 

 

 

leaf, star, waters, dust, clay, feet, shoe, footstool, historical Word, cloud

KNOWLEDGES OF GOOD AND TRUTH

LOWEST
or
OUTMOST

 

INMOST

MIDDLE INTERNAL

OUTMOST EXTERNAL

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Masculine and Feminine Receptacle:  Wisdom=Masculine while Love=Feminine

S C A A C S

LEADERSHIP IN PUBLIC LIFE

WISDOM IN MATURE LIFE & OLD AGE

LOVE OF BECOMING WISE FROM CONJUGIAL LOVE

LOVE OF WISDOM IN MAN

FEMININE WISDOM

LEADERSHIP IN FAMILY

OCCUPATIONS, CIVICS, CHASTE LOVE OF SEX, SEMEN

INTELLIGENCE & UNDERSTANDING IN YOUNG ADULTHOOD

LOVE OF UNDERSTANDING FROM WOMAN’S LOVE OF UNDERSTANDING IN MAN

LOVE OF UNDERSTANDING IN MAN

FEMININE UNDERSTANDING

DOMESTIC ACTIVITIES, CHILDREN, CHASTE LOVE OF SEX, PREGNANCY

OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES, ROUGH BODY, NATURAL LOVE OF SEX

KNOWLEDGE & ACQUISITION OF IT IN CHILDHOOD

LOVE OF KNOWLEDGE FROM WOMAN’S LOVE OF KNOWLEDGE IN MAN

LOVE OF KNOWLEDGE IN MAN

FEMININE KNOWLEDGE

DELICATE HANDWORK, SOFT BODY, NATURAL LOVE OF SEX

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Counterclockwise= HISTORICAL DECLINE OF AGES

Clockwise= INDIVIDUAL PROCESS OF REGENERATION

The Psychobiology of Regeneration

Taxonomy of Love

Religious Behavior

S C

A

A+ C+

S+

Heaven & Hell

Deformations & Evils & Degeneration

Spiritual Insanity, Atheism, Idol Worship

Scortatory Love (love of many of the sex)

III

Conjugal Love (love of one of the sex only)

Wisdom & Intelligence

Uses as Beauty & Harmony & Progress

Ends

Societal Strife Immortality Idleness Injustice

Irrationality & Vastation (Flash floods)

Love of Deception, Cunning

II

Love of Wisdom, Faith, & Truth & Sincerity & Fairness

Rationality & Understanding of Truths

Civics, Management, Morality, Societal Peace, Justice

Spiritual World

Delights of the Senses that satiate & fade with time

Fantasy Life, Magic,  Superstition,  Obscenity

Love of Gain & Self above other Loves

I

Love of Knowledge, Curiosity Love of neighbor equal with self

Natural History Science, Art, Drama, Poetry

Super Keen Delights of the Senses that remain fresh forever

Earth


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

PSYCHOLINGUISTIC DEVELOPMENT & MATURITY

  ALPHA BETA GAMMA

DELTA

 

A/C/S READING

A/C/S WRITING

A/C/S NOTE TAKING

A/C/S SEARCHING

Level III

Organizational Functions

(= "Judgment")

To Characterize

A. Describing objects & shapes (9)

C. Word analogies games (8)

S. Looking up definitions & defining words (7)

To Promote

A. Identifying cultural values (18)

C. Learning etymologies (17)

S. Writing an essay, article, book or making a document drama tape

To Present

A. Writing a review and making recommendations (27)

C. Modeling briefs or white papers (26)

S. Budgets and schedules in stimulus managing tasks (25)

To Catalogue

A. Word matrices (such as this table)(36)

C. Knowing and using the L of C or other System (35)

S. Making a glossary of terms in an area (34)

Level II

Normative Functions

(= "Objectivity")

Topics

A. Retelling exercises (6).

C. Making explicit casual attributions (5)

S. Making a personal encyclopedia (4)

Themes

A. Making vivid illustrations (15)

C. Metaphor exercises (14)

S. Writing a companion or poem (13)

Perspectives

A. Seeking to arouse interest (24)

C. Evaluating peer writing (23)

S. (22)

Networks

A. (33)

C. (32)

S. Writing summaries and abstracts (31)

Level I Informational Functions

(= Coherence")

Indexing

A. Memorizing text for a prize (3)

C. Reading quizzes or tests (2)

S. Making lists indices & directories (1)

Outlining

A. Logic games or activities (12)

C. Diagramming tasks (coping and altering them)(11)

S. Making a composition outline or outlining some text (10)

Selecting

A. (21)

C. Knowledge quizzes of games (20)

S. Highlighting exercises (underlining or quoting) (19)

Classifying

A. (30)

C. (29)

S. Giving titles to things (objects and events)(28)

 

Affective Area

Cognitive Area

Behavioral Area

Not Visible

Visible to Self-Reflection

Visible to Others

III/A: Intuitions

(Spiritual and Rational Perceptions)

II/A: Feelings (Hot Cognitions or Reasoning Pressures)

I/A: Emotions (Sensations and Impressions)

   
 

III/C: Rationality

II/C: Thoughts (Evaluations and Implications)

I/C: Imagery (Representations and Attributions)

 
   

III/S: Acts of Judgments

II/S: Acts of Normative Evaluation

I/S: Acts of Memory-Knowledge’s

Religious Behaviorism--Script Analysis and The Rational:

(From imagination to truth to goodness—the epic history of every man’s autobiography)


a) The rational Determines, Experiential force, Valuates, confirms Significance cathexis

(e.g. chooses which child experiences are elevated to importance vs. relegated to oblivion and inaction – see Freud; and Tomkins on "scripting")


b) Which is therefore to eternity (see "confirmed character" when inherited evil is turned into acquired evil) (see GENETIC CULTURE/LIFESTYLE/ETHNICITY)


c) Through the use the person makes of it (see: TEN COMMANDMENTS/NEW WILL/REFORMATION) (e.g. first vs. second rational: truth vs. charity)

- Confirming false hoods that serve cupidities (e.g. Ellis and Perls and EST vs. Mowrer and Jung and Swedenborg)

- Disconfirming falsehoods through reception of revealed truths and resultant self-control of the inherited sensual will or inclinations.

- Curbing one’s evils (see TWO-EDGED SWORD =)


- Assenting to one’s cupidities and insanities closes or degenerates the rational so that person is deprived of the ability for judgment ( "sensual" a "corporeal" man)

d) Misuse of the rational deprives the person of the ability to reason with abstract thoughts ("materialism", "humanism", "relativity", "nihilism", "psychopathic", "atheism")

R*D= [correlate Abstract Reasoning scores with Moral Behaviors and/or Moral Intelligence and/or Lifestyle Index][see: Recidivism/Decline in scat Psychotherapy/Materialism]

Diagram= [evil-people-can’t-reason-hypothesis]


e) Deceit and profanation being the two worst misuses that kill remains (e.g. fantasies taken for realities; 87)


SELF-ANALYSIS TRAINING OR JACOB’S LADDER

(H. Odhner, p. 84)

(Hagar Ishmael Isaac= the evolution of the Rational – see AC)(Jacob’s Ladder on the bridge between Heaven and Earth in confirmations of good)


= Love of truth rules over love of sensual EXPLORING ONES INTERIORS

RATIONAL REFLECTION--ISHMAEL WITHIN US (prior to TRUTH joining to GOOD)

FIRST RATIONAL (WILD-ASS) PRIOR TO SYMPATHY AND LOVE OF NEIGHBORS PRIOR TO ISAAC WHO IS PEACE WITHIN US


SAT: Self-Analysis Training

Correspondence {= Helping the first rational or Ishmael to transform into the second rational or Ishmael}

Elevation and Full Maturity {= Conjoining truth to good = Adding sympathy to understanding and letting}

Objectives and Symptoms in SAT {= Avoiding the abuses of the rational}

The Development of Judgment (Odhner) (Education of the Will)

A C S

HIGH SIMPLE FINE UNIVERSAL GENERAL PRINCIPLED

ABSTRACTING FROM

Freedom and Love

Pleasure from Effort of Will in Meditation and Reflection

Affection for seeing truths

Love of Understanding

New Will (Connate ideas)

Tacit Thinking

 

Conclusions

Confirmation

Right action from Good

Seeing that truths are so

Perception of Good

Good – Evil

True – False

(Spiritual Truth)

Conclusions of Confirmation

RECOMBINATION II

BREAKING UP

Affection of Truth and Reasoning and Forming Conclusions

Common Sense

(Rationality)

Acquired Conscience

Perceptive of Justice

Warranted-Unwarranted

Just-Unjust

Right-Wrong

Legal-Illegal

(Civil and Moral truths)

Ideas of Thought

SINGULAR COMPLEX GROSS LOW PHENOMENON

I

Curiosity Love of knowing

Procession of General Information and Knowledge of Laws

Perception of Rectitude

Correct-Incorrect

(Knowledge)

Meanings from sense

NB: means "Extracted From"

A/C/S breadth = A priori = (Synthetic) = From ends to effects

A/C/S breadth = Abstracting out time/space = 3-D to 2-D to 1-D

(A posteriori) from first principles to effects

Induction and Analysis (angelic wisdom a priori)

I Clothed Appres. Ultimate (Y/G ground) Deduction and Synthesis

II Level height I Covered up truths (Y/G ground)

III Naked Truths first (Black/White origin) ultimate (this includes "preconceived principles" (dogmas)

From Effects to Causes and First Principles confirmed in ultimate through biased (This includes scientific rational though selection of ultimate development)

A/C/S(Outward depth breadth)

DEVELOPED ONTOLOGY

ACTUALIZING SELF

GENUINE ACTS

CONCRETIZING

MANIFESTING

REAL CAUSE  (VS. INSTRUMENTAL CAUSE)

FROM INMOST TO OUTMOST

A/C/S (Inward depth breadth)

UNDEVELOPED ONTOLOGY

SIMULATING SELF

REHEARSALS

ABSTRACTING OUT

DISCRETE DEGREES (VS. CONTINUOUS DEGREE)

FROM OUTMOST TO INMOST

EDUCATION OF THE WILL (DIRECTION OF DEPTH)

*= Removal (or "separation" of quantity (math, time, space, person, quality

**= "D"= Dimensions of constraint or limitations.

  "Seed" "Tree"

"Fruits"

  A

Will, Affect, Love

C

Understanding, Truths, Faith

S

Behavior, Deeds, Quality, Style

Level III

Spiritual IQ (Organizational)

Religious Motives

Love of all

Compassion and Forgivingness and Altruism from Love of God

Superconscious Heavenly Doctrine

Spiritual Truths

Higher Conscience Pure Abstractions

Perception of Good and First Principles

Level II

Sociomoral IQ (Normative)

Shame Guilt Anxiety Pressure to Conform shared gains

Rational Thoughts and Reasoning Conscious Moral Truths

Conscience (Dictates) Information Evaluation Abilities

Memory of Immaterial Ideas

Decency/Honesty in Deeds Behaving with Equity and Justice Moral Behaviors

Level I

Material Scientific IQ (Informational)

Zero-Sum Competitive,  Self-Seeking Rewards/Gains,  Needs/Impulses,  Striving,   Loves, Avoidances,  Satisfactions

Sub-Conscious

Civil Truths and Information Processing Abilities and Strategies

Citizenship Skills, Social Competence Skills, Memory-Knowledges (Concrete Ideas)

The Rational Mind: Composition and Processes (H. Odhner) (A/C/S-collapsed)

WHITE-BLACK

USE, LIBERTY WILL

Determining into the will (precipitation)

Free choice deduced from judgment

(Conviction)

Abuse of freedom

Rejection of truth

Right use of thought opens the rational

Wrong use of thought perverts rational minds

Taught by parable and example

Conclusions based on moral judgment

BROWN--YELLOW

RATIONALITY, UNDERSTANDING

Judgment from analysis and analogy

Moral virtues or vices = Acquired and confirmed affections for truths and falsehoods (these govern imagination)

Perception of abstract values (honesty, moderation, etc.)

Resolution (of convention points)

Attribution errors of thought = Conclusions from appearances

Thought = forming and transforming (new elements)

Understanding of new relations (between items of exterior memory)

Interior natural memory*

Memory of abstract things (rules, values, laws)

GREEN--BLUE Ingenuity = clever re-combinations

External natural memory from senses and imagination and memory of material ideas

REGENERATION THROUGH REMAINS *The opening up of the rational is through

a. Innocent affections in infancy (CELESTIAL)

c. Association of material ideas with truths (SPIRITUAL) and concepts of order and form RATIONAL

s. Religious ideas (MORAL) (RATIONALITY)

The Basic Ennead of the MIND

Philosophical Psychological, and Religious Foundations

SPIRITUAL IDEAS (good)

REVEALED TRUTHS (tree)

INTUITIVE PERCEPTIVE

MEMORY OF ABSOLUTIONS (truths)

TRUE – FALSE

FREE – UNFREE

LOVE – HATE

(Correspondence)

LEVEL III

RATIONAL MIND

(MIXED SPIRITUAL/CELESTIAL)

NON-MATERIAL IDEAS

CONSCIENCE/JUSTICE

EQUITY/REASONING

SELECTION IN LAWFULNESS

MEMORY OF THINGS THOUGHT

FAIR – UNFAIR

PROPER – IMPROPER

APPROPRIATE – INAPPROPRIATE

(Thought Relations)

LEVEL II

MORAL MIND

(MIXED RATIONAL/NATURAL)

KNOWLEDGE

SCIENCE

INFORMATION

MEMORY OF THINGS SENSED

SELECTION IN NECESSITY

IMAGERY

CORRECT – INCORRECT

COMPLETE – INCOMPLETE

SAME – DIFFERENT

(Sense Attributes) (Time and Space)

LEVEL I

NATURAL MIND

(SENSORY ORIGIN ONLY)

(A & B = spiritual substance)

The Organization and Operations of the Mind

The Ennead of Religious Behaviorism  (see H. Odhner)

Evolving good affections or affections for the Lord’s purposes for us

Positive bias or desire to confirm revealed doctrine of living (faith)

Love of Lord, Church, and neighbor from good

Thinking about divine providence in D.R. Operation

Connecting experiences to revealed truths

Cognitions of truths and the word

Bible therapy and regeneration

Perceiving truths or the ends of existence

Executive in practice of thought and deed the commandments of religion

Organization or experiences and knowledges

 

Striving to order all things according to divine revelation

Ideological orientation and bias

Moral perversions from false persuasions

Character building efforts

Cognition of faith and doctrine

Heresies and scholasticism in religion

Mental space and time

Psychotherapy, Est. etc.

Logic of virtue vs. folly of vice

External rituals of the church (Sacraments)

Lifestyle justifications and enactments

Inherited and acquired evils

Memory of civics and morality: rules, thought and deed

Digestion and evaluation of experiences

Affections for truths, images, ideas and knowledges

Delights for sensory pleasures

Yearnings and lusts {

For Appetites/Sensual Will

Reinforcement and Drive Reduction and Consummatory rewards and gains

Role modeling strivings

Habits and skills

Automatic Self

Association of material ideas

Artificial – Mechanical – Intelligence operations (lower LOGIC)

Practice and Rehearsals

Memory for particulars

Memory of bodily experiences

Imagery/Knowledge of good and truth

Perceptual redintegration

Words and Symbols

Role-Behaviors

Negative emotions from moral and spiritual perversions

Gestalt Contiguity, and Similarity Laws

Scripts and Fantasies and Dreams

Scientifics

The Interiors of the Rational Mind (H. Odhner) (A/B/C collapsed)

BLACK

Pure intelligence (perception of spiritual truths)

Spiritual Origin: Process only Sensitive to inner relational patterns in interior of

(content in natural) natural but now sensed by the natural itself

Higher conscience/innate/connate/ideas/love/

Wisdom/remains/pure intellect*/innate intuitions

of truths/absolutes/universals/rational templates or

concordant harmonies that correspond with

axiomatic or prime natural verities and laws (un-

conscious archetype) (transpersonal) (intentional-

structures)(collective mind)

BROWN

Natural Origin Thinking/reasoning/transforming/creating/

(content process) imagination/imagery/exterior memory/sensation/

B perception/impression

GREEN

YELLOW

*Pure intellect considers all thing by an absolute true/false judgment that is intuitively apperceived , thus sees simultaneously (outside time/space) what the natural mind sees and experiences successively (in time/space). (no successive steps of building up, as in analysis or derivation or generalization, or abstracted – instead it is synthetic and synecdochic and teleological)

Pure intellectual things ("wisdom") can be expressed indirectly by analogy as parable.

The organic substance of the pure intellect is the highest (thinnest) if natural substances (their essence or inmost) and is located in the inmost of the cortical gland "cortex" – matter. Within this highest natural, and giving it life and function, is spiritual substance which is of a higher degree and unconnected except by corresponding harmony. Hence this is a plane of interaction between spiritual and natural in the human mind/body system.

Complexity of Psycholinguistic Functioning

Level of Psycholinguistic Functioning

A C S

Level III/A

High Affective Area

Level II/A

Mid Affective Area

Level I/A

Low Affective Area

Moral/Rational/Spiritual Affect (Consciences and Intuition)

Cognitive Affect (Consonance or Dissonance Pressure)

Sensory Affect or Pleasure Principal Learning

Mature Disco from firsts to ultimates

9. Organizational

8. Normative

 

7. Informational

Rational, moral, and pragmatic reasoning or identifying presuppositions

Logical operations or deriving implications

Simple associations or mechanical transforming

Level III/C

High Cognitive Area

Level II/C

Mid Cognitive Area

Level I/C

Low Cognitive Area

6. Organizational

5. Normative

4. Informational

III Organizational functions

9------- gender -------- 6

Conjunctive learning

II Normative Functions

8------- body ----------- 5

Absorption learning

I Informational Functions:

Adjunctive learning

4--------- morals ------- 1

Imitation and modeling

Social and applied intelligence scores (I.Q. and morality)

Reasoning or comprehension test scores

(story telling and writing)

Verbal and symbolic memory scores (vocabulary and reading)

3. Level III/S

High Behavioral Area

2. Level II/S

Mid Behavioral Area

1. Level I/S

Low Behavioral Area

Gamma (7,8 & 9)

Beta (4,5 & 6)

Alpha (1,2 & 3)

Development of Psycholinguistics

MORNING SPRING TIME

LOVE TO THE LORD

WHITE BLACK

CELESTIAL MIND

PHASE: SABBATH REST (NEW: WILL AND WISDOM)

Low midnight Hi noon summer

LOVE OF WORLD/SELF LOVE OF TRUTH

Unregenerate people; Imaginative Selfhood Phase: Regeneration; Interior Morality

(world ills and problems) Fig. 1 (spirituality)

C C C

YELLOW GREEN

BLUE BROWN

S S S

NATURAL MIND SPIRITUAL MIND

Phase: Reformation; External Morality

Religious and Cults (faith separate)

Christian Psychotherapy: The Psychobiology of Rebirth

(Psychotopical phases graphically indexed) Swedenborg, in Heaven and Hell (17), describes the pr4ocess of Christian rebirth as "turning". People are born facing North, spiritually (see: "inherited evil" of selfishness in natural mind’). Phase Alpha, or "reformation", is completed when the person is turned "W" i.e. "shuns evils" as barbarian (see: MORALITY). Phase Beta, is completed when the person faces "S", i.e. "shuns evils as sins". (see: spirituality). Phase gamma is completed after death in other world.

Innate Spiritual Strivings {Gestalt Organizational} Preferences and Inclination

Perception of Higher Conscience Love and Compassion and Collective Conjoining Impulse

Impulses from Pure Rational Innate Universals Intuition and Striving for Rationality and Love of Innate Universal Order

Socio-Moral Impulse

Self-Love and Hate of Universal Innate Order

Perception of Consonance and Dissonance Reasoning Aptitude and Tendencies

Pressure for Consonance

Socio-Moral

Influx: Its Quality and Function

The accompanying graphic representation summarizes the description of the threefold self as given in Swedenborg’s writings. After studying it for a few minutes, and committing it to memory (to some extent), you may consider the following points regarding the concept of "influx".

The universal influx of life’s operation is God’s own will, intellect, and power with which all life’s motion and states are created, maintained, and altered in accordance with His ineffable purposes.

God’s purposes, to some extent have been revealed to the human race on our natural earth through religious revelations to individuals who then told others and thus established religious and is educated by others. Afterwards, the adhere to family religion or rejects it and espouses other views and rules of living.

A Graphic Representation of the Threefold Self

III. In Heavenly or Heavenly or Organic Functions

Infernal World Infernal body and Societies

inmost influx (celestial) (infernal) (influx)

II In Spiritual Spiritual body Organic Functions

World or Societies

intermediate

influx (spiritual)

(influx)

I Natural World Natural body Organic Functions and Societies

There is thus individual freedom along with influx. However the area of freedom is different in each of the three worlds. In the natural world, the area of freedom is in the organic functions of the natural self (memory-knowledges from sensory input and material reasoning with them). There is no other freedom in the natural world, though we have the hallucinate that the thoughts and abstract reasoning we’re aware of are our very own. We would indeed be surprised to learn (and might incline to disbelieve) that we are indeed conscious of some abstract thoughts but these are not thought by the "me" we know! Instead, these abstract thoughts that our consciousness is aware of enters by influx into our imagination. In other words, others in the spirit world are thinking those thoughts, which them enter into our imagination where we can perceive their natural analogy or "image".

The Three Freedoms of the Threefold Self

The accompanying graphic diagram shows the three areas of freedom. The natural self’s freedom is in the area of material reasoning, as we know our self in our daily living activities and settings. Thus we can move our bodies in freedom in accordance with whatever image or memory we feel like satisfying or pursuing. These are the external or c-level freedom. We are at liberty to think and choose whatever material ideas or pursuits we can memorize or construct.

We are also aware of non-material ideas or rational ideas as when we see the difference between a contradiction and a paradox, or when we build graphic models of the threefold self, or when we intuitively decide on right/wrong or good/evil. These rational ideas have natural analogs by which we are aware of them, but they themselves are not in the natural world but in the spiritual world. The natural self can thus become aware of rational ideas and thus understand truths and good and evil, but has no control over these as they exist in the spiritual and celestial world’s only. Hence the sphere of freedom to the natural self is restricted to thinking material thoughts, which are local and external images of rational thoughts.

The sphere of freedom of the spiritual self is in thinking and reasoning with rational ideas, and the sphere of freedom of the heavenly or infernal self is in choosing the affections and loves implanted within their innate strivings.

There is thus a natural freedom in our material thoughts and reasoning by which we can build the morality of our character. For example, as spiritual ideas of truths or falsehood stream into the brain from the spiritual self’s environment, their analog in material imagination makes their presence conscious to us in the natural world. Thus, we in the natural world become conscious of our spiritual self though we can’t control that self’s activities in the spirit world. This awareness gives us the means to build our character since we can choose in freedom to alter the direction of our spiritual self.

Negative Bias Paradigm

Paradigm

Biblical Symbol

Graphic Symbol

Character

Negative Bias
("Null Hypothesis")
 

Positive Bias

Ishmael*

 

Isaac**

S/C/A

 

A/C/S

Inductive; Analytic; Inferential; Generalize

 

Deductive; Generative; Descriptive; Particularizing

*Ishmael is external or scientific knowledge, which battles with all in constant engagements between "truth vs. falsehood" (Paradigm switches and revolutions)

**Isaac is interior rationality or intellect, which is yielding in constant striving to confirm, conjoin, and organically unify.

Positive Bias Paradigm: How to Confirm A/C/S

The Psychology of Gender 8/86

Female man * Male man

Wife * Husband

1 couple unit

Psychology Key: Woman = motivated or affective (will) (love)

Man = cognitive (understanding) (wisdom)

N.B. Affections rule Cognitions form within

*A wife is to be ruled by her husband because cognitions separated (emptied) rule the natural (external). A husband is to obey his wife because cognitions refilled (conjoined) achieve the couple state (for superior).

Relationships Gender Differences

Why a man doesn't want to commit himself to a relationship?

Control, Cowardice or (Fake Independence) – wants to retain control over woman avoiding changing his character which a woman pressures him to do once the man the commits.

Selfishness and lack of caring, Self-Destructive – doesn't want to give up selfish activities and habits (investing) wants to destroy himself by first destroying the woman and his relationship. – doesn't want to give up other woman or men friends. – Doesn’t want to share his money.

Why a woman wants and strives for a relationship with commitment?

Conjunction (unity) – wants to evolve into a joint human (couple hood is completion of self)

Unselfish or Altruistic – desires to change herself so as to fit perfectly with her man.

Caring and Nurturing – cares about him so wants to be close and intimate so as to know how to take care of his needs.

Belonging – needs overt signs of belonging for reassurance and safety.

Romance – wants to feel special and exclusive.

Jealousy: reaction to threat

      1. Outside threat to check relationships (breaking up)
      2. Inner threat to one’s self-esteem (ego threat)

Different reasons for males and females: ("I’m unworthy to be loved") ("I’m inferior in compassion") ("I’m not capable in compassion") ("I’m replaceable")

c) Control, desire for (I own you; you belong to me; no one can have you; you’re just my property)

Jealousy: Zeal to Protect

    1. Desire to protect relationships
    2. Fighting against loose ends in commitment
    3. Opposing general love of the sex (wonder, lust vs. love of one of check sex)
    4. Communication (Talk)

    5. Men use silence to control woman (if he doesn’t talk about it, she can’t have he5r way and her demands can be ignored)
    6. Women use talk} to reach consensus, to request help and attention, to play and share (intimacy) (safety), to release stress, to overcome doubts and feelings of unworthiness
    7. Men use talk} to intimidate and impose his will, to invalidate and criticize, to confuse (pool the wool over her eyes), to reduce and woo, to focus on task and avoid relating

DISCLAIMER

[Does not pertain to extreme cases, e.g. fatal attraction, abuse, mental, illness or deliberately calculating types]

Marriage is external

He/She is the one

Accommodating him/her (people are unique, unique relationships, culture and self)

Finding out what he/she cares about moment – by – moment

Solving his/her problems

Saving him/her form problems, not giving him/her problems

Obey him/her

Make it safe to tell the truth, no repercussions

Make up for transgressions – remedy

Tell the truth, no deception, ever

Respond carefully to distress symptoms

    1. Let him/her say painful things without reproach
    2. Be reassuring
    3. Don’t assume you are being criticized or attached
    4. Try to help him/her balance by remaining calm and helpful and attentive
    5. Be attentive all the time, no time out, especially when fighting/arguing

      It may feel strange to respond the way he/she needs to be responded to … it evolves into your own way … face his/her reality without denial

      Avoid whose right/wrong style of conversation

      Develop exploratory style of talk to go deeper without hurting, defending, accusing

      Why men must give in to their women:

      It’s a man’s world

      Men automatically assume a position of superiority

      Men take their rights automatically

      Men developed the social, economic and judicial systems

      Men are by definition biased toward male views

      It’s the little things that show the male predominance

    6. Women carrying burdens
    7. Men talking to men and ignoring women
    8. Men’s violence in temper, word, act
    9. Men’s silence on a topic
    10. Men looking a woman up and down
    11. Men’s refusal to go along with
    12. Men hate weakness (no crying)

Men need women’s sweetness but don’t allow themselves to have it by distancing form the women

Men cannot have love without obeying their women as they expect their women to obey them

Men cannot be happy and evolve without love

Children do not provide the kind of love men need to be happy and fulfilled

Men need love to fell adequate, to be healed of injuries, to become their true selves

 

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